Erotic Self Exploration
Take time to feel yourself and discover your sexual essence.
Since I am on the journey Sexological Bodywork I consciously and regularly take time for SOLO-SEX. I spend about 1h or longer time alone with myself. I create a sensual space and feel into myself, what does my body need right now, what do I want to explore in my genitals or anus, what do I want to try out with my sexual energy or what toys & objects do I want to play with. I am big fan of celebrating solo sex and see a lot of power in it. Time alone with myself and with all senses to feel me, brings me into a quiet comfortable presence, after which I long in our stimulus-flooded world again and again. It creates a nurturing space for my feelings and in the intimacy with myself so much nurturing self-love. And the more I am in touch with myself, feeling my body - the more alive I feel.
That is why I have been teaching the basic course Sexological Bodywork in March 2022 I have been giving ORGASMIC YOGA Workshops in small groups in Zurich in my practice. I like to call this erotic exploration with oneself Orgasmic Yoga - because a fulfilled sexuality & self-connection needs a mindful, regular practice. In the process, we can discover so much about our sexual being. I find it to be a huge adventure. :-)
So here I share four different ideas for how you might spend your SOLO-SEX time. Maybe it's inspiration for a new experience - an alternative to the usual, goal-oriented, tense "highway" masturbation - on to new unfamiliar, unintentional, playful, free, embodied sexual paths. 🥳
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The basic keys if you feel blocked are ATEMPT - MOVE - VOICE.
I recommend the following procedure:
5min meditation, sitting
at least 30min self-love practice
5min. Tracing, lying
5min. Journalling: noting (body) feelings and insights
1 | NUDE DANCING - MOVE YOUR PELVIS
Let your favorite playlist run and undress - naked I invite you to bring your perception to the music and your body - how does your body want to move right now? Shaking, rolling, dancing, walking, swaying, stomping... keep your eyes closed if possible and be with your perception with the focus in the pelvis.
How would your genitals like to dance today? Let your pelvis circle and breathe deeply into your penis, your testicles, your vulva, your vagina, your anus. By consciously rocking your pelvis and breathing deeply, you can awaken your sexual energy and life energy and let it dance playfully. I recommend you to play with breath tempo, also to exhale loudly - to (s)sound.
2 | SELF TOUCHES - VARIETY OF TOUCH
How does my body want to be touched by myself? Which touches feel good? Which touches excite me? Which parts of my body have I never consciously touched myself?
I invite you to be your lover for 30 minutes, to touch you, to oil you, to massage you - try different qualities of touch - gentle stroking, flowing touches - faster - slower, scratching, kneading, hitting - you can also let other body parts or objects glide over your skin besides your hands: Feathers, forks, fabrics, stones etc. I invite you to be playful with yourself and curious about yourself and your body.
3 | EMBODIED PORN WATCHING - PORN YOGA
Choose a porn movie (about 30min) - but this time watch it standing up. I invite you to move freely while watching and especially to bring movement into your pelvis, to touch yourself, to sound - let go of usual body tension and find your excitement through moving, relaxed touches and movements. Maybe you want to imitate people's movements and feel how they feel in your body. Or you can imagine that you are also part of the scene and play along.
With your attention you can commute like, for a few breaths in the scene and then for a few breaths with you and in your body. Play with it and be curious.
4 | MIRROR MASTURBATION
Meet yourself and your erotic self today via mirror. Take time to play with yourself, to excite yourself, to feel yourself - look at yourself in the mirror and observe how your pelvic floor & genitals change through more excitement. How much love & attraction for yourself are you allowing yourself to feel? Do I allow myself to find myself hot and arousing?
Observe your body, your touches, your gaze. I invite you to look yourself in the eyes again and again - especially to admire your face in high pleasure and if it comes to it also during orgasm to keep eye contact. If you feel resistance or negative thoughts, give your emotions space & voice. You can also take different positions, move.
I'm also happy to accompany you on this journey of discovery with self-love coaching online via Zoom or live in the office.
